CAN TOLERANCE 

BE LEARNED?

 

For Parents

 

What to tell your kids about prejudice and hate

 

 

Discussing hate and violence with children

 

 

Responding to Hate-Motivated Behavior

 

 

Parent's guide to hate on the internet

 

 

What can parents do about prejudice?

 

 

Media influence and self-image

 

INTRODUCTION:

Since the violence at Columbine High School, (http://www.bouldernews.com/shooting/), schools have become more aware of the fact that intolerance is both a

cause and a result of hatred.  The challenge for students

and educators is to promote acceptance of differences, thereby eradicating instances of abuse from name-calling to violence.  This acceptance includes people of diverse races, religions, gender, physical and mental abilities, sexual orientations, etc.   How do you know if you have hidden prejudices?   Take the following quiz: www.tolerance.org/hidden_bias/test.html.   Consider these questions: Is biased thinking related to identity? Is your acceptance of differences a conviction or is it conditional upon the pressure of family, church, workplace or peers?  Can tolerance be learned?  Can behavior be changed? What needs to be in place for groups to change intolerant behavior? 

This webquest will help to explore these questions and more.  When you use the internet for research, you must be careful because many people post  personal opinions which may, in fact, be prejudicial. You may encounter hate sites if you explore this topic in further depth.

TASK:  You are an individual who is sensitive to the issues of tolerance and the results of prejudice and biases. You would like to make a difference in today’s world.  But, can you make that difference?  Your task is to develop a plan of action which  is to include:

·      One personal, individual action or activity

·      One action or activity for groups or classes

·      One school-wide or community-wide action or activity


 

Use the following resources to

complete this task:

1.     Examine your own level of prejudice by taking the quiz: www.tolerance.org/hidden_bias/test.html. 

You can select to “test” yourself either in areas where you believe you have no biases or areas where you believe your most prevalent biases exist.  Select from topics such as body image, age, and skin color. Skin color can be further explored as African American/Caucasian biases or Asian/Caucasian biases.                       

·      DO NOT lose your patience; the quiz seems repetitive.  But, if you follow the directions and take the quiz exactly as it is designed, you will gain some real insight about your unconscious biases.   Write down your results as you go.

 

·      Questions to consider:

o     Examine your results.  Were you surprised? Were you satisfied?  Why? Or why not?  What do you think your results reveal?

o     How will you use the results?

 

2.   Explore these suggested internet sites which address the relationship between identity, values, and behavior

 

a.     From Computation to Communication: Adolescent Girls and the Internet -- http://www.haverford.edu/psych/theses/chanlett-avery.99.html -- scroll down to section titled, “Background in Adolescent Theory.”

b.    www.ncsu.edu/cgi-bin/netforum/svpf/a/3--5 -- then, read Deborah Conover’s reply under “Reply to School Bullies and Cruel Students”

c.     “Tolerance” – an essay on tolerance as the most important virtue activematrix.org/phil1/readings/schwartz/tolerance.html

d.    Those who can, do! Those who can’t, bully! http://www.successunlimited.co.uk/bully/bully.htm

 

·      Questions to consider:

o     If you were introducing yourself to a new person in your school, what five adjectives would you use to describe yourself?

o     Does your identity form your values; and then, your values dictate your behavior?  OR, does your behavior create your values, and therefore your identity?

o     Be honest: Is your behavior dictated more by your values or by peer pressure?   Are you satisfied with this answer?   Is there reason for improvement  or change?

 

3.   Explore the suggested internet sites, looking for examples of prejudicial behavior among teenagers.  From these examples, speculate on the causes and patterns of this behavior.

 

a.     “Columbine Jocks Safely Resume Bullying” www.theonion.com/onion3532/columbine_jocks.html

b.    Prejudice and Discrimination home.att.net/~Rwfreebird/prejudice_and_discrimination.htm

c.     Bully Box bulletin board of incidents of bullying and intolerance www.antibullying.net/bullyboxfeedback.htm

d.    A Survey of Bullying Among Maine Third Graders http://lincoln.midcoast.com/~wps/against/bullying.html

e.      Bullying in Schools – a good site for characteristics of bullies and victims and possible interventions www.ed.gov/databases/ERIC_Digests/ed404154.html

 

·      Questions to consider:

o     Define bullying. Is there a difference between teasing and bullying?

o     Where is bullying most common?  Is it a severe problem?  Why or why not?

o     How is bullying an example of prejudice?

o     What is the correct response to a bully?

o     Can bullies change?  What would lead to this kind of change?

 

4.   Explore the suggested internet sites, looking for instances in which individuals stuck to their convictions and stood up against bullying and intolerance despite pressure and opposition. From these examples, speculate on the causes and patterns for this behavior.

 

a.     Good Teens www.projo.com/special/goodteen/main.htm

b.      

·      Questions to consider:

o     What are the characteristics of people who stand up to bullies?

o     How did their actions turn out?

o     How do you think they feel afterwards?

 

 

 

5.   Explore the suggested internet sites, looking for ideas and activities that other schools or groups are using to promote acceptance of differences.

 

a.     Prejudice and Discrimination  home.att.net/~Rwfreebird/prejudice_and_discrimination.htm

b.    Center for the Prevention of School Violence at North Carolina State University www.ncsu.edu/cpsv/index.html (“Go to the School Violence Prevention Forum” and read what others are saying)

c.     Cultural and Identity – Strengthening Cultures and Promoting Tolerance www.caa.org.au/parliament/forums/culture_and_identity/

d.    Anti-Bullying Network for Young People – advice, information, and school-wide ideas www.antibullying.net/youngpeople.htm

e.     Stop Bullying Now http://www.cary-memorial.lib.me.us/bullyweb/

f.      101 Ways You Can Beat Prejudice – from The Anti-Defamation League site -- http://www.adl.org/Prejudice/default.htm

g.    Five-Step Process to Combat Hate –  select “Responding to Situations You Find Offensive: A Five Step Process” www.adl.org/ctboh/default.htm

 

·      Bookmark or take notes on sites with ideas you think might work.

o     Which ideas might work at Canton High School?

o     What can you do as an individual beginning right now?

o     What would you like to see your classroom teachers do within a class?

o     What school-wide changes might make a difference?

 

Now, generate your own action plan!

  
 Your task is to develop a plan of action which includes:

·      One personal, individual action or activity

·      One action or activity for groups or classes

·      One school-wide or community-wide action or activity